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22 September 2009 @ 10:21 pm
Everything would be easier if no one fucked up.  
Tristan said something to me today that really hit home.

He told me that forgiveness isn't something you do once and then it's over. You have to keep forgiving. over and over. Because when there's past resentment, something small and stupid can trigger its return. Letting go of bitterness means letting go only for the time being. Until it somehow creeps its way back in, and then you have to learn to forgive all over again.

I'm finding it hard to forgive. But I make mistakes all the time and I hope that people will forgive me.

How can I expect forgiveness from others when I am unwilling to forgive too?

So in the end, we say sorry and we keep feeling sorry. Or we forgive and we have to keep forgiving.
But I'm tired!

I want to be a better person. I am going to try and forgive more freely.
Sylvia McNaughtyhomegrownweed on September 26th, 2009 11:18 am (UTC)
we talked about forgiveness in health and happiness. forgiveness only comes when you realize that what someone else did shouldn't have the power to affect how you feel now. basically, what happened isn't worth worrying about, isn't good enough for you and you shouldn't care about it. when you can do that, the next time you think of the act or person, just remember you're better than it. there's a much more detailed explanation in forgive for good by fred luskin (he was one of the instructors)